When retirees miss their work

Many people look forward to retirement with longing. For managers, career-minded people and self-employed people who have spent years building up their own business with a lot of energy, retirement can also turn out to be a test of endurance.

"People who spend a lot of time at work and whose job is part of their identity suddenly feel worthless without it. They lose structure in their everyday lives and feel a great emotional emptiness, which can lead to frustration, loneliness and even depression. Experts refer to this as the so-called empty desk syndrome," says Dr. med. Steffen Häfner.

The specialist in psychosomatic medicine and psychotherapy and medical director of the Klinik am schönen Moos explains which strategies make it easier to enter retirement. "Those affected should think about how they want to spend their time after their working life. This should ideally be done as early as possible, i.e. while they are still working, so that there is enough time for planning. For example, they should think about where they want to live and what they want to experience. Many people like to stay in their familiar surroundings, but for others a change of location can be quite fulfilling."

It also makes sense to create a bucket list for retirement. Clear goals give everyday life a common thread and something worth working towards. What ends up on the list is of course very individual and can be expanded at any time. From renovating the living room to a long-dreamed-of trip, everything is possible, says Dr. Häfner. However, it should remain achievable, because unfulfillable ideas are more frustrating than helpful.

Finding a replacement for the exciting aspects of previous work

"Another essential question is which aspects make your own job and previous work particularly exciting and what can replace them in your private life," advises the doctor. If someone is very interested in their leadership responsibilities, they may be able to continue to exercise them in the form of a position in an association. Those with a wealth of experience could also consider passing on their knowledge to the next generation as a lecturer. "Training others is not only a meaningful activity, it also provides new contacts. Whatever the final decision, every hobby and every activity gives everyday life a bit of structure and security. If it involves other people, all the better. That way, loneliness and boredom have no chance," says Häfner.

Support from partners, family and friends

The role of those closest to you in the transition to retirement should not be underestimated. Such a change can put a strain on the relationship between partners, especially if their shared lifestyle suddenly changes fundamentally. "Partners can therefore best support each other by showing understanding and helping to establish a new daily structure. Open communication is essential for this," advises Dr. Steffen Häfner. Ideally, a couple will find a new hobby together that they can use to enjoy retirement together. "Friends and family should also be open to those affected. In addition, doing things together can make the difficult transition period easier."

Therapy frees you from emotional hole

According to Dr. Häfner, anyone who already suffers from empty desk syndrome and can no longer find their way out of the emotional hole should seek professional help . Today, modern medicine offers effective treatment concepts such as cognitive behavioral therapy. "Patients learn to stop their negative thoughts and adjust their behavior. If this takes place in group therapy, there is also the opportunity to get to know like-minded people and exchange ideas," he adds.

Time for self-reflection

Discover how ready you are for retirement. A few simple questions will lead you to personal insights and ideas for a fulfilling retirement. Feel free to take a moment for yourself - it's about your future!